Willingness: The most important ingredient

Most often people are brought to their knees before they are able to change. If one truly is tired of one's situation enough, waiting until the state of desperation arrives is not really necessary. All it takes, first and foremost, is the WILLINGNESS to take time to reflect upon one's situation, learn of the Tools of Change, then persist in applying them. This is not BS.
Most of us change via a vehicle called waiting. We wait until discomfort moves us to change. It can be just stiffness in your back — so you readjust the way you are sitting. Your job has become so hateful that you begin to look through the want ads. Your spouse uses an expression just that ONE MORE TIME and you blow up. Your day is boring, you seek entertainment.
Yes, that is the way most people change. They wait until they are uncomfortable, and then take action.
Q: But what kind of action?
A: Action to avoid pain/discomfort.
That becomes a life pattern. And it gradually becomes habitual, so our whole life is spent reacting to discomfort rather than taking action to carve our our lives the way we want it.